Gaby is one of the most special people I know. I feel so blessed to have her as one of my very best friends and she never stops inspiring me. One of the things I appreciate most about Gaby is how much she loves and cares about her friends and family with her whole heart and how she always looks for the positive in the people she meets and in life in general. This is one of my favorite posts she’s written on the blog and I hope it reminds you (as it did me) to nurture your spirit every day.
Nurturing My Spirit
Originally Posted April 2017
It’s hard to explain the intensity of the workload we face at the office between January and April. It’s almost four solid months of go-go-go with frequent thoughts of “How are we going to get all this done?” and dealing with
sometimes oftentimes demanding clients. The silver lining is that there is an end in sight–it just seems so far away at times.
I know we can all face crazy busy times in our life with work, family and the constant demands on ourselves and our time. But we all have to learn to manage them in one way or another or we’ll go insane.
In other years at work, I’ve taken on the stress, worry and frustrations that often take place during this time, and they have wiped me out. It’s hard for me to not take things personally, to accept that I can’t make everyone happy, and to realize that I have limitations in what I can do and what my capacity is.
But something changed this year. It was a very conscious decision to let go of those things were out of my capabilities and beyond my control. Crazy, I know! But I also made sure to incorporate what truly makes me happy and nurtures my spirit. And that became key to surviving this crazy time at work.
Here are just a few things that helped me during this time and things I absolutely want to to continue to incorporate:
I can’t tell you how many silent prayers of, “God, please let me get through this conversation with this difficult client without yelling at them” I said during this time! But in all seriousness, consistently turning to my faith in big ways and small gave me peace. There truly is peace in knowing I’m not alone. My faith has always been an anchor in my life and it particularly holds true during a stressful and demanding time at work.
FAMILY & FRIENDS
My life doesn’t stop between January and April. This season, I made a very conscious decision to give myself time to rest but also plan some fun things to do with Jessie, my family and my friends. We saw plays, went out to dinner, did some wine tasting, celebrated birthdays and enjoyed life as much as I could. It was usually after a weekend away from the office spending time with loved ones that I was reminded what life is truly about. I work so hard so that I can enjoy the many blessings in life.
BE THANKFUL FOR THE BAD THINGS IN LIFE. THEY OPEN YOUR EYES TO SEE THE GOOD THINGS YOU WEREN’T PAYING ATTENTION TO BEFORE.
It’s not always easy. Especially when facing some tough times. But feeling grateful for big things and small, helped me get through some very stressful moments. In the end, I was always immensely thankful to have a job. There was a time when I would give anything to find a good, stable place to work and I have that. It has allowed us to do so many wonderful things in life, have a beautiful home we love, and simply provided the bare necessities. I will always be grateful for that. And those pesky clients? Well, their business keeps our office open and running. And now, I’m grateful for the time off I’ll have to recover.
Again, not easy, but I became more confident in saying it: to clients, to invitations, to other demands in life. I’ve always said, “A ‘no’ to someone else is a ‘yes’ for yourself.” It’s very interesting how positively people respond when you give them boundaries. And it’s important for people to know that there are limits to your time and capacity. I’m still learning to be more confident in my “no” but it’s becoming easier and easier for me.
GIVING BACK TO MYSELF
My morning walks were more than just a way to get in some extra steps. They became a conscious effort to start my doing something positive for myself and clearing my mind to get ready for the day. I have been craving a strong connection to nature lately: trees, the ocean, flowers, etc. It gives me peace and truly nurtures my mind and spirit. I’ve also been blessed enough to get a few massages (gifts from work) and I was quickly reminded how important it is to take care of ourselves and get pampered once in a while. It was key in managing the stress and it’s something I absolutely want to incorporate more and more.
Anything you’re doing to nurture your spirit? Let us know in the comments below.